TEN THINGS EVERYONE IN THEIR TWENTIES SHOULD KNOW.

The twenties is a very vital period, it is the point when we transition from teenagehood to adulthood. The boy becomes a man and the girl becomes a woman.

Most people in their twenties are just graduating from college, starting their careers or becoming completely independent from their parents/guardians.

This moment of our lives can seem very confusing as most people come upon the sudden realization I need to grow up and are left torn between decisions. Here are ten things every one in their twenties should know. Here's what i've learned.

1. If your life seems easy, then you are not working hard enough. The twenties is the beginning of adulthood. This is the age when excuse my language 'shit gets real'. You are trying to figure out who you are and what you really want in life. Relationships get a little more serious, you are trying to accomplish set goals and to be honest your life just seems a bit all over the place especially for those of us in our early twenties. So if at twenty something your life is easy then maybe you are not trying hard enough, re-examine your priorities and begin to work toward your goals.

2. The world is not always as it seems on social media. Be real with yourself, do not compare and judge yourself based on what you see on social media. You are jealous of the 'bae goals,' of some random people wearing matching sneakers or holding hands when you have no idea what happens behind the lense of their cameras. And is it just me? Or are there no people with blemishes anymore? Beacuse rarely do I see any on instagram, most people now take pride in masking themselves with the beauty of photoshop. What you see or read about someone on social media is not their full story, it is merely a little extension of their reality which by the way may or may not be true.

3. Out with meaningless friendships and relationships. This is a time to surround yourself only with those who are concerned about your growth and development as a person. Move away from all sorts of negativity and people who make jest of your dreams or mock your ambitions. Build stronger bonds with people who support you instead of struggling to hold unto those who clearly have little or no interest in your well being or achievements.

4. Leave no room for mediocrity. Always dare to be extraordinary. Strive for greatness, pursue your dreams passionately, love only deeply and truly, fill your heart with only the things that make you exceptional. This life is yours, don't just exist, live.

5. Be kind, especially to those who cannot repay you. If you do believe in God, the little prayers people who are in need say for you when you are kind to them will impact your life positively in ways you might never have imagined. The most minute act of kindness to someone in great need will automatically fill you with sincere happiness and a sense of accomplishment. Reach out to the needy around you, you do not have to be wealthy to help the poor, give from the little you have.

6. It is not possible to be loved by everyone. No matter how kind, beautiful or good-hearted you are, not everyone is going to love or even like you. Do not spend time worrying about being liked or accepted by people, the important question is, do you love yourself? do you accept yourself? If you are truly happy with who you are, then the careless opinions of others should be of no value to you. However if you are unssatisfied with yourself, take a step toward the right direction, make a positive change.

7. It is perfectly okay to cry. When things get really overwhelming and the weight of the world is on your shoulders breaking you down, when you try so hard and all your efforts seem to be going down the drain, when your relationship is not what you thought it was and that heart wrenching pain threatens to tear you apart, It is perfectly okay to cry. Crying does not signify weakness, it is simply a means of letting go. Cry when you need to because bottling up emtions is very unhealthy, break stuff if that's what works for you(not expensive stuff you will regret though). It is okay to break down. What matters is that you do not stay down, put yourself together,use that pain you feel to your advantage, let it be a driving force that pushes you towards your goals.

8. Hustle quietly. You ever had a plan, excitedly told a bunch of friends and one of them started to build on it? Keep your plans to yourself, many people are out there solely to discourage you, to tell you that your dreams are too big or that your career part is unfitting for your gender or that you are wasting your time. Others are there to gloat when your plans fail, you will be surprised at how many frenemies you have at this point. Keep your hustle silent, let your achievements speak for you, if you have to brag about your achievements and plans then you clearly have not achieved enough.

9. If you find someone worth loving, do not let go. Many people are out there trying to play smart in love, leaving someone clearly deserving because they do not want to seem a fool in the eyes of others. No one is perfect, if luckily you fall in love with someone who genuinely cares for you, who sees nothing but perfection in you especially when you feel shitty, someone who encourages you and can be your backbone when you are too weak to carry yourself, a person who is your bestfriend and sticks like glue even when you try to push them away, do not let go. Such people are not easy to come by, they will make mistakes and hurt you but it is never a good enough reason to let go.

10. Hold on to the child in you. Laugh till your stomach hurts. Be spontaneous and play with your friends. Grope your girlfriend/boyfriend in public. Be adventurous and as you get older, do not lose sight of who you are. Remain young at heart.