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I decided to write about this because apparently it is a common place most women have found themselves in today’s society.Men will cheat and we just have to accept it and live with it. Now isn’t this just sad?

The fact is, relationships have gotten so messed up, cheating is now an expected norm. It is so accepted that every time a man cheats someone gives us the pathetic excuse of how ‘all men cheat’. I do not disprove this statement, neither do I certify it, I am simply spilling my frustration on the ridiculous nature of relationships these days and the things the so-called main chicks and wives need to endure simply because they do not want to be the nagging woman in a bid to save and support a relationship they have built their lives around. I understand the plight, I mean you have invested so many years, your time, money, energy and the better part of you in a relationship, leaving just does not seem like an option.

‘So why do men cheat?’ I am sure if someone had the definite answer to this question, they would have made billions from it. Some people say it’s in their nature, others say sometimes women drive men to cheat one way or the other. There are some women however, beautiful as goddesses, banging bodies, monsters in the bedroom, mothers in the kitchen, humble, loving, and caring, what some call the full package, but the love of their life is lying in bed with some next whore whose face cannot even be compared to hers and probably has loose flabs for a vagina from years of misused wear. WHY??!! Loads of women tirelessly read posts on how to make themselves better just so the man has no reason to cheat. I will admit that certain things you do can affect your relationship with your man, certain behaviour may drive him away while others may pull him closer but what of when you do everything right and he still cannot help but chase after the next piece of ass. It is quite unfortunate to say that some women are comfortable being side chicks. I once heard a girl on the radio say she only dates married men, now sister is your future ambition to snatch someone else’s husband or to become a second wife? Everyone seems to be devoid of morals in today’s society.

My male friends often show me messages of girls throwing themselves at them, one girl in particular after knowing this guy for two weeks slept with him and according to the message she sent him, she was in love with him and she had never let anyone fuck her the way he did, then she proceeded to ask him for money-- he told her he does not pay for sex… bitch you just been politely called a whore and you still chasing this guy. Women were made as goddesses, what happened to self-esteem? I understand that sometimes we find ourselves in ridiculous situations that make us question everything we believe in but losing a sense of who you should be is never an option. The most important thing a woman should have for herself is respect, because it is when you respect yourself that people around you will respect you. I saw a picture post with the inscription ‘there are two types of women; goddesses and doormats’ which one are you? If you show a man that you accept disrespect, he will disrespect you and if you show him you are nothing short of a goddess... then honey you are going on a high pedestal. Last night while I had this discussion of men’s infidelity becoming an accepted norm with my friend I told her that the most important thing to me in a relationship is respect. Nothing as sweet as knowing your man values and respects you. It allows you sleep better at night, it boosts your confidence even.

There is no reasonably no known explanation about why men cheat in my opinion. Yes sometimes we drive our men away through one stupid behaviour or the other, yes sometimes they just need to fuck and you aren’t there, yes many women have no respect for the power they have between their legs that they surrender to any working dick, one of which could be your man. While no one has a definite answer about how to stop a man from cheating, it is important that you be the best version of yourself, set goals for yourself and it will surprise you how things fall into place, pray, do not accept disrespect because it is what you allow that will continue and most importantly, you can never really appreciate someone else’s love if you do not love your own self.

It is important he treats you right, it is important that you are in a relationship that leaves you blushing from inside. A relationship however is not a bed of roses, hard times will come and these times as they say test the strength and quality of a relationship. The truth is that deep within us we always know when we are happy with a relationship, no matter the lies we tell our friends, the façade we put up for people on social media with our matching sneakers, hands entwined. We all know most things aren’t what they seem, how do you feel about him at 2pm when you are busy and at 2am when you cannot sleep and your mind floods with thoughts? Are you smiling? Or are you trying to blink back tears?

This is one persons opinion on the subject... what is yours?

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