10 ways to make your man desire you

1. Appreciate him.

A thing about a man's feelings -- no I am not speaking French they have feelings too and these feelings can get hurt if you do not appreciate him. Thanking him for very little things he does for you makes him feel good and it also boosts his ego. He will start to do more of those things that make you happy because of your positive attitude towards him. When you do not appreciate the little things he does, he starts to feel you do not think him good enough and this might cause him to pull away and start an affair with the next woman who shows him the littlest act of appreciation. Do not let another woman do your job for you. Also, do not point out his faults in front of others, defend him even when he is wrong, you can correct him when you are alone.

2. Surprise him.

Do things out of the ordinary for him once in a while, this would make him feel special and cared for. You can surprise him by instigating new and unexpected sexual positions, take him out to dinner in a restaurant you have never been to and pay, do a nice makeover you know he would love, buy him something he has wanted to get but hasn't gotten the opportunity to. A little spontaneity once in a while does not hurt and try to grow as the relationship grows, if you stay stagnant, he might start to get bored and become distant from you. How long have you been dating your man for? Has anything changed or improved about you since you started dating him? Make notes for yourself and work on yourself.

3. No nagging.

For the love of God do not be a nag, this is one attitude that can drive your man crazy and away from you. True, men can get frustrating but nagging has never solved any problem, yes temporarily you might nag him into taking out that garbage or into buying you that dress you want, but it will also push him away from you. My boyfriend once told me on one of my nagging days that people are attracted to what brings them peace. Obviously nagging makes a man restless, it makes you restless too. If you want something done, ask politely, let him know how happy you would be if he does it, if it's important, let him know how important it is to you and that even though it might not make sense to him it means a lot to you, if he has reasons for not wanting to do them, listen to his reasons and explain yours. Do not bring the issue up every passing second, give him sometime, see if he will do it then remind him again. If he fails to do it and it's something you can do yourself please do it and let him know you did it e.g. 'Oh baby, I fixed the door last night or called in help, am sure you have been really occupied, that's why you could not do it, am sure next time you will'. Allow his conscience to nag him, that is more frustrating, he can walk away from you when you nag him but well, our conscience along with our shadows are two things we can't exactly walk away from. Be considerate and ask politely, nagging only pushes your man away. Creating unnecessary drama for your man is not right, if you want drama, join an acting class or better still, watch a movie, he is your partner not your audience. Being a drama queen in your relationship might be the reason your man occasionally distances himself from you. Examine your attitude and know if you fall in the class of drama queens, that might be the reason he is avoiding you.

4. No Blabbing.

That is the sole reason for girlfriends or the gay best friend, those magical people we can unload our everyday crap on, from how we woke up in the morning till how we went back to bed. Your man does not need to hear every single detail of your day, if you let him know every step you take and how many times you took a shit in the office, it makes him less interested in you because you take all the mystery out of your relationship. Make him wonder what you have been up to, him not knowing will make him a little uncomfortable and it will peak his interest in you. Be open with your man but always leave some things to the imagination.

5. Be one of the guys when necessary.

Nothing bonds a relationship more than doing things with your partner. Being able to do some things men like with your partner would make him bond with you on a very deep i'm in love with my best friend kind of level. Play video games with him if he's a fan and do not expect him to let you win, watch sports with him and go to watch his favorite team play, know about the team so you can actually talk instead of spending the whole time asking for the names of the players. You should be able to drink and chill with him like his buddy would, that would make him not want to go out every time to watch or play games with his friends, why stress himself when he has a buddy he can kiss and fool around with after a good game.

6. Time apart.

Yes as stated above, learn to do those things he does with his friends so you can do them with him but he still needs his time with his friends and so do you. Men need their space, sometimes they need alone time or time with their friends. You need that time too, showing your man you have a life outside his arms will make him want you more. Do not text him every minute while you are with your friends, have fun and let him know you had fun. While he is with his friends, give him his space and do not ask him what he is doing every second or how soon he is going home every one hour, he has a mum, that is her job, not yours. Giving him his space means you trust him to act responsible when you are not with him and it boosts a man's ego when you treat him like a man instead of treating him like a little boy, a mistake many women make in their relationships. He wants to feel like he is in control, it's an ego booster for him, let him feel so, at the end of the day you know he isn't. *wink wink* Also feel compelled to add this, you are not a CIA agent nor are u a detective, even if u are, his phone or his personal stuff is not your mission. Do not snoop around, it would make him uncomfortable and it would also make him want to hide more things from you and believe me he is gonna be super careful so u don't find anything even when u snoop. Back to my main point, just let him have his space.

7.Take care of yourself.

Be neat, smell good, eat right and exercise. A lot of women tend to stop taking care of themselves just because they believe they have gotten the guy. You should strive to be better than you were when he met you. When you take care of yourself, you look good and when you look good, other men desire you, this would cause your man to become more possessive of you, he would hold your hand in public, kiss you, it's his way of establishing his territory. Yes eating right and exercising can get difficult with all that good food in restaurants and all those tv shows to watch but your body is a temple, you should treat it like one. When you treat your body like a temple, so will your man, he would adore you and just the thought of knowing that many men want you would make him know he is lucky to have you and he would treat you better.

8. Be Independent.

Neyo could not have sung it better. An Independent woman oozes sex appeal. The fact that she does not need his money makes him want to spend it on her. It is true that the man ought to pay the bills, take care of you, simple societal courtesy but for heaven's sake that does not translate into him being your atm machine. Have a job, a business, some means of making money of your own, if you have to ask your man for money every time you need something e.g for your hair, makeup, clothes e.t.c. It makes you less attractive to him and he can start to take you for granted because he knows you need his money. When he knows you can buy those shoes yourself and that bag, it pushes him to try to impress you by getting it for you. It does not mean your man cannot help you when you are in financial difficulty, that is a totally different situation. Turning him into your everyday credit card simply means he's paying for your time and you know what that makes you... Am not gonna say the word but it would only be a matter of time before he starts to disrespect you.

9. Do not be a pushover.

You are a woman not a dummy, do not bend to his every request, men love a challenge. If you simply succumb to his every wish without even trying to voice out yours, you become a living dumb doll, he would get bored with you and look for a real woman. A man who does not listen to your opinion does not love you, if he does, he would not be dictating your every move, if you show him you are willing to do everything as he asks he would keep commanding you and soon enough you turn into his doormat and he would walk all over you. Have your opinions, stand your ground, challenge him, a little argument is necessary in a relationship, keep him on his feet and drive him crazy... in a good way.

10. He is not a mind reader.

Women expect men to think like them, sorry darling, they can't. He is not going to know you want something if you do not tell him. They are not as attentive as women, yes some men are more attentive than others but do not get angry when he fails to notice you want something. If he has offended you, tell him, if you just start pouting he might assume you just need space and he will pull away. Communication is key, do not expect him to know what you want automatically, tell him when he offends you else you will spend your whole day being angry with someone who is not aware of your feelings. Expecting him to know without telling him will get you frustrated and cause you to nag him unintentionally.

These are just key pointers, they do not automatically guarantee the success of a relationship but I know they could help you build a better relationship with your man. Do not expect a perfect man, quit trying to change him, work on yourself and watch how that affects his attitude towards you.

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